How Planning and Manifestation work together

 

 

Organisation and planing are part of the process of Manifestation!

Less that two months ago while I was still batting away the idea of this overseas trip about to happen in a few short days time, I was doing that thing that we all have done at some point and ‘asking for a sign’

Which for me is totally ridiculous a) because I see signs for everything all the time and b) I usually only start asking for signs when I know EXACTLY what I need to be doing but it feels scary.

So when  I tuned in again for guidance, and yet again heard ‘get organised’ it felt underwhelming (because I was thinking it was going to be scary and that is not hard or scary at all!!) But I also realised that for me at least ‘being organised’ is a key part of manifesting.

It’s like the universe needs to keep me busy and out of my own way and get me ready to jump when things fall into place.

Time and time again these last few weeks, when I wasn’t sure what was next to do, and I’m hoping to hear something deeply profound! Loud and clear all I hear is “ Get. Organised”

Now some people that know me will be already rolling their eyes at this.

I have a not so secret Terrier streak that sees a finish line and channels some deep inner Virgo list busting skill set and just goes for it!

I’m not exactly the most disorganised person in the first place, but each time I have heard this I have acted on it because I understand and respect that you cannot expect guidance to keep pouring in when you don’t act on it.

However bizarre it might seem.

So I hopped to it; I’ve closed long empty old bank accounts and Feng Shui’ed my finances, shredded old journals, and re-organised my diary/ journalling / client record situation with this blog from Vienda as a guide.  This has felt supportive, luxurious, and is about anchoring into abundance and comfort.

This type of preparation despite its lack of direct connection isn’t the kind of action that often falls into the category of procrastination.

You know the situation, that final assignment needs to be done and suddenly the grout you’ve been happily ignoring is suddenly the most important thing in the world!

No, this is the deep dive into trust that though it might not seem directly linked to what I am trying to achieve  is essential to the process.

Isn’t it true that we can never really be sure exactly how something is going to unfold?

We might have a dream to travel, to create something, to find a new home or a new love and so we start with one little step at a time.

I dreamt (literally) of catching planes for weeks before I relented to following the creative crumbs of my new London Coaching offering. I have since got my passport out, it’s sitting on my desk reminding me every day.

And of course I have actioned plenty of the obvious steps.

Sales pages have been created, post have been scheduled, promo ideas have been written down, and mad brave cold calls have been made following the feelings to people I’m yet to meet that may be destined to be new friends!

There are goals beyond London that I have been working towards all year, and again they have been of the circuitous variety!

It feels very much like setting up the solid foundation for which many new things are going to be based on.

Next year it is my intention to have the option to work remotely some of the time and it feels like I need to be clear on the practices, clothing and lifestyle items that will travel well with me.

Obviously I don’t NEED these things to have a successful business coaching women but they have been super helpful in anchoring in the FEELING of how that is going to work from anywhere on the planet.

And if you don’t know by now I love me some Practical Magic.

With each clear and conscious purchase such as my new planer I am bringing my self closer to that which I am seeking and as Rumi has famously said will be finding it’s way to me too!

All the while I am staying open to those bolts from the blue, plot twists and unexpected but gratefully received moments of assistance.

I put these ideas out to the women in my Instagram community when this first came up in August and here are my responses to the things that they shared often get in the way of supporting their process of manifestation.

 

Information overwhelm Analyss paralysis Fear of Starting!

If you are already overwhelmed you have ALL the information you need. Step AWAY from the internet and just start. Fling the words up on to a blog, hit send on the intro email that you’ve spent the last week looking at, make that phone call. Just. Start!

Feeling I’m being idealistic or not knowing or having the experience

Short of saying your going to be the first woman on the moon (and hey I’m not going to tell you it’s not possible!) Being ‘idealistic’ is just a dream you havent experinced yet.

Even if the perfect version of the thing your planing and dreaming doesnt happen exactly how you envisioned it, along the way you have created a new skillset and experience to use for the next time you want to bring something new into your world.

Also everyone and anyone who has done anything new or different was told they were bonkers first by nay sayers.

Not being certain of others involved in the plan (or future being manifested)

Give yourself full permission to want what you want regardless of what other people think is possible Or even what currently looks possible. You’re allowed to want what you want. Share you future desires with key people in your world. How they respond gives you alot of information on whetther or not they are aligned with your future. It can be this simple, not always easy on the heart but pretty straight forward. Owning YOUR own narraitve is essential for creating the life your magic heart desires. These are three conversation starters worth exploring.

In my future I see….

Its a long held dream of mine to…….

Its important to me that………

 

We have to be very careful with our dreams and plans in the beginning.

Be discerning who you are going to share you bold new plans with. Not every is going to be as excited about it as you are and thats ok, but we need to know that this doesn’t mean we still shouldn’t pursue our dream. People will sometimes be fearful for you and it simply isn’t helpful. Sometimes we are just so excited and put too much importance in someone else seeing the brilliance of our new plan instead of backing ourselves whole heartedly and doing our due diligence. This breeds self doubt and resentment. Find a mentor, coach, or friend who is as Brene Brown says ‘ in the arena’ doing work of the similar calibre you are looking to create.

We need to make the unknown known.

Follow online, chat to, watch, listen or read about women who have done the thing youre hopeing to do or experience. Knowing your creation will be differnt again.

Having a mentor, coach or group who has been and done what you are wanting to do to has been super helpful for me.

Knowing when it’s time to let something go

Nothing is ever wasted. Trust this truth. Some plans, book drafts, ideas or relationships  are not meant to see light of day, but what you have learnt in the process will undoubtedly make the next thing you approach much more successful. It can be a bittersweet with out doubt.

Sometimes things do just take time and it can feel super frustrating but one thing I know for sure is that life is happening FOR us not TOO us.

 

I’d love to hear from you, your experiences on manifesting and how you support this process in your life.

 

Here’s to creating lives with meaning and benefit not just ourselves but our communities as well.

x

 

 

 

 

Wellness Education & Why Qualifications are Important

 

 

water ripple, aswa, wellness, corporate wellbeing, keri krieger

 

Never before has the importance of qualifications when seeking your health and wellbeing information been so important.

The quantity, diversity and overwhelming nature of the information that is available to most people on the internet these days is more of a hinderance than a help.

Gurus, health coaches, medical mediums, scientists and skeptics can offer people such polarising advice. As with any field it requires a lot of discernment and self knowledge to choose the right path for you, and often in the realm of health and wellbeing you’re not always in the best shape to be making these choices. Fear, ill health and exhaustion can have you bouncing from one extreme protocol, diet or ‘it’ food to the next, seeking relief.

Even within highly trained branches of natural, integrative and allopathic medicine there are quite naturally going to be differences of opinion. It is no wonder people are confused and hoping for a magic pill!

So what do you do?

I have been thinking deeply on all of these topics recently as I pivot my business and continue my never ending education.

I continue to be challenged with what to call myself so that it’s easy for those seeking my assistance to know what I do.

The word coach is often swallowed up in a world of ‘7 figure business’ marketing or ‘green smoothie’ wellness advocates. I have no issue with either of these markets but it is just not what I am.

My business involving coaching, courses and acupuncture, is based on my almost 20 years as an acupuncturist with thousands of hours of client interactions involving acupuncture treatment, counseling, lifestyle advice and intuitive support.

It is impossible even when I am not in the traditional clinical setting to leave these skills behind. And I certainly wouldn’t want to.

There is also the very real and ongoing nature of what is required of us as Registered Practitioners in Australia. Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine in Australia is governed by AHPRA. The Australian Health Practitioner Registration Association is the same governing body that oversees Doctors, Nurses, and Chiropractors.

One of the stipulations of this is the minimum 21 hours of ongoing education in your field of practice on top of 4 hours of education to ensure you are up to date with the latest in laws and ethics in your field as well as a current First Aid certificate.

Last year alone I did over 250 hours of ongoing education within the fields of Chinese Medicine, Yoga Teacher Training and Facilitation education.

I think this is important information for clients to know.

So how do I evolve my business and (hopefully) make it easier for my predominately women clients to find and access coaching, treatment and mentoring to support their wellness and health journey?

The answer I believe is simple but it requires both parties to be educated in our approach.

Underneath the title and the branding we need to look rigorously at the education of the person we are approaching and the type of assistance we are looking to receive.

You wouldn’t go to your child minder for a hair cut, neither should you seek psychological medical advice from the gorgeous lady down the road selling essential oils and moonstone (both of which I adore and use in my own home!) You may of course enjoy her company and wear her oils and stones as a reminder of your innate magic, inspire some restoration in your limbic system (where we register scent and emotion in our brain) whilst seeking out professional assistance.

This sounds obvious but I feel that common sense is often not so common and these things need spelling out.

And on the part of the provider there needs to be on going transparency and commitment to the evolution of their education and their field. Health care and our understanding of Mind, Body and Spirit is never going to be a static space.

New developments and understandings continue to occur. I mean, it was less than a decade ago when neuroplasticity was a new discovery.

Having said that I have long eschewed further theoretical based education in preference of emerging fields that offer practical skills that will have lasting effects for clients.

Juggling all of these desires I have chosen to enrol in the Diploma of Wellness Leadership Program through the Australasian Sustainable Wellness Academy (ASWA). It is the first of this kind of qualification to be offered through a registered training authority and as such is a new benchmark in wellness education, not only in Australia, but on a global scale.

It has long been a passion of mine to not just treat corporate burnout on the treatment table and in private coaching but to support preventative change in the workplace environment. It is my aim to become a trainer and mentor of this program in workplaces throughout Australasia and through my involvement with ASWA over the last few years as this course was written I have recently been offered a role as an ASWA ambassador.

This is a truly exciting time for me and the industry I love. Most importantly though qualifications like this one make it much easier for individuals and businesses alike to make discerning choices about where to invest their time, energy (and dollars) supporting their health, wellness, and emotional wellbeing.

Wellness and Wellbeing are more than passing fads and I feel it’s important to acknowledge the importance of the preventative role these qualifications will play in the future and the support they will offer to traditional healthcare modalities.

There is a place for it all, and I look forward to sharing more of my journey as it unfolds.

Did you resonate with something that I have just mentioned, perhaps in your own health journey or education?

I would love to hear from you. This is an ongoing conversation that I would love for you to be involved in!

Wild – 3 Ways to Nourish your Inner Wild Woman

 

 

Wild was my guiding word for this year, and for most of this year honestly I’ve wondered if I could’ve chosen an less appropriate word. It feels like my most domesticated year to date.

I have traveled less, worked less and spent more time in the same four walls than I thought possible (and lovingly so.)

Navigating co-habitation and relationship and business transition has not been easy though.

Yes, my life from the outside looks much more like our society says it’s best to; I live in great comfort and I know a lot of people that love me have breathed a sigh of relief ‘to see me happy’ .

(Which is quite a strange and loaded statement for me to hear really as I look back on the last 3 years of my life especially as some of the happiest and most successful to date.)

But back to wild, and it has me wondering, how I associate this word with freedom, and creativity and on focusing on my own needs and my own inner animal nature.

I have to say that it most definitely was easier as a single woman running her own business living on her own to navigate and prioritise my own needs.

Truthfully it wasn’t even in question.

But for most women the second that someone else’s needs come into the mix it becomes problematic, now problematic is my word, you might have a descriptor that is softer and less… problematic.

But that is how it feels to me and so it’s been a time of navigating the extremes of my nature, my ‘and and’ desire to be both sides of the coin at once.

My desire to be at home running a bath at the same time as my passport and my suitcase are packed and ready, eyes on the horizon.

My inner animal, the wild space I retreat to internally has been most affected by my evolving circumstances and it’s in this internal space that I am returning to most often lately to make my decisions forward.

Because she is the one that left unattended has the power to wreak the most havoc.

Her wild wisdom accessed and integrated is sublime.

Think synchronicity, manifesting, good health, sensuality and boundaries.

Ignore her intuition, deny her space, tell her to be less dramatic and more palatable and she will bring your world to it’s knees and burn everything to the ground.

And no I am not being overly dramatic here.

Every woman (and perhaps some men) reading this who have navigated divorce, illness, or the kind of bewildering unexpected life change that revealed great chasms in their inner world of beliefs, values and habits knows exactly what I am referring to.

So whilst my personal life path isn’t really that unorthodox, even my simple life, childless by choice and for many years single would have a few hundred years ago seen me burnt at the stake.

As such I have long accepted my path forward is one I will need to create myself with the intention of modeling these options to the women coming up behind me.

It is not  the actual choices I have made themselves that other women should copy, not at all, but the reality that there are other ways to live your feminine life.

There are almost always other choices that aren’t on the menu you were given.

You just have to be wild enough to request them and be stubborn enough to stand your ground and know your value of them.

 

So perhaps this year of wild is more about uncovering the ways in which I need to nourish my inner wild landscape and clear out what get’s in the way.

That perhaps as I enter the start of another cycle of seven I have been choosing my co-ordinates carefully, and as I have listened, my wild animal has shared with me three things I need to do to support her and I think they might help you too.

1.Claim your rite to age in your own wild crafted, free range way.

At 43 when the collective would have me clutching at my ovaries fist flailing at the sky spending so much of my precious time energy and resources on grasping at plump youthful ness I’m taking my middle finger directive and letting it guide me.  I have nothing against looking my best, taking my supplements, aligning a few down dogs and soaking in the premium lotions my privileged lifestyle affords.  But I want to be part of a culture where aging is more than just ‘looking good for my age’ or appearing youthful because these things acknowledge beauty in spite of aging, not as a result of the lived experience now visible on the outside. One of the most radical things I believe I (and we) can do is to visibly age and stay in touch with my sensuality, intellect and power on my own terms.

2. Create your own map for relating.

I choose to create a unique and constantly evolving model of being in relationship. (There are no cookie cutters in our house)

I am fortunate to enjoy friendships spanning many age brackets and I see a lot of gorgeous Gen Y’s navigating the nuclear family in ways that blow my mind. But for many and most of my generation we need to rethink what we have been told is the only way. We need to be open to creating loving relationships that are created from the inside out, from the needs of the people in them and not from the desire to fit into a model that no longer works for most of us.

3. Most importantly we need to take space.

To take UP space and to have space. This is the one that I think undoes us the most, and certainly I find the most challenging.

Taking a month last year to go on retreat in Bali has given me a visceral embodied experience that goes beyond the simple sum of the parts of rest, food and yoga.

It’s changed the way I give myself permission to claim what I need. It’s helped me apologise less and speak out more boldly to hold space for my clients.

This space though will be different for each of us, and taking time and giving yourself permission to discover what you might need is the first step. This is something I lovingly guide women through in my coaching programs.

 

Women are hungering for the way showers the gate keepers (and the accidental first responders that I often feel like I am,) to model the change I believe is the way forward.

We’re going to get some of this wrong.

We’re going to look around for someone to show us the way and realise that right now we might be it.

 

So please feel me when I say

Wild Woman follow your soul path.

The one less paved,

The one strewn with flowers and fallen branches

Across pebbled beaches And spacious internal fire.

x

Discernment, Self- forgiveness and How to move forward with ease.

Blog, Forgiveness, Discernement and Self compassion

 

 

As Boundaried has rolled out the last 3 weeks I have been checking in most days and feeling into the content, making sure I have pressed the right buttons and that popping in and making sure the emails are being opened and sending love to each of the participants!

It’s been really fun to see this beautiful program, a first for me, out in the world.

As that hectic full Moon in Capricorn rolled through and illuminated so much for so many I was sitting  the topic of discernment for Day 17.

Discernment literally means ‘to judge well’, and in a society that usually deems judgement in its negative expression we need to get to grips with just how essential this ability is.

The last year has seen enormous change and evolution for me, in all areas of my life, and at each crossroads or turning point I have needed to discern what was right.

What is the next right thing that I need to do, or organise or align myself with?

Do I choose this path or the other? I have been slowly pivoting my business from hands on acupuncture and Rockupuncture to more coaching, and group classes.

It’s been a slow unravel, and I’m very grateful actually that I’ve given myself the time that I have. I can be quite impatient but I’m getting better at it.

As I have sat with what I needed to do next I realised that Discernment happens in two parts. The first part where we check out the specs of the thing we’re thinking about; Do I go on that second date? Do I book that holiday? Do I choose to follow this business idea or the other. Each of these options comes with a raft of information and metrics we can mostly measure.

Then we come to part two and that is, what worked before, and what happened when we did something like this in the past, and how do we feel about it now?

I realised that there was a piece holding me back from taking the path that I know 100% I need to take with my work and my personal life. You see, that bit up there, that ‘what happened in the past and how do we feel about it now?’ Let me share a really vulnerable story with you, but first a metaphor!

Imagine that you worked super hard 3 years ago to save 10k and excitedly threw it into a ‘sure fire’ business idea that flopped badly and cost you that 10k and then some, and you’ve been berating yourself for that ‘ridiculous idea’ and your stupid lack of due diligence ever since. Then imagine that now you’re trying to make a decision around how to budget for the next big idea you’re creating.

How do you think your decision making skills are looking when you’re still berating yourself and haven’t forgiven or let go of or spent time accessing what you learnt from that error of judgment?

You’re not going to be coming from a really aligned space are you?

You’ll be coming from fear and lack of trust in yourself. And nothing good can come from that.

Believe me.

So a few years back I had the aha moment I shared when I launched Boundaried. You know the one where I said that it struck me that I wasn’t backing myself, and I promised myself that from that point on I was going to choose myself and get the heck on with creating my wonderful one life. Sounds simple right?

But I wasn’t totally honest.

The thing is after that internal declaration my personal life fell apart. Like some B Grade afternoon soap opera.

I mentioned way back here  that often people don’t like it when you shift the goal posts but I didn’t tell you the half of it.

I was bullied within an inch of my life in my own home for months on end by women I loved with all my heart. Women I had trusted with my soul. This heartbreak made my divorce many years earlier look like a stroll in the park. I felt betrayed and my heart utterly smashed and I have been carrying the shame of this ever since.

You see that while this was happening the rest of my life was going ahead in leaps and bounds.

This my friends is where the hard lessons in alignment are learnt; Mentoring clients found me left right and centre, my Sydney roadshow was booked out, my pop up clinic was going gangbusters, my newly written coaching immersion package was launched and I was going deep with beautiful clients in a way I had always dreamt of.

I earnt more in that 6 months than I had in any six month period before hand.

It gave me the freedom to support others in my life and myself with yoga, and a psychologist and herbs. My health that had been struggling improved, even with all this extra stress.

I could have lost sight of the truth of this and focused on the escalating drama in my house.

I could have listened to the spiritual bypassing and aggression and lost sight of my truth.

I could have fought back and defended myself.

But I kept quiet, kept my head down, and saved my energy for my clients, for my sanity, and for finding a new house.

A new house that of course found me. Literally by accident. I have many of these stories for another time.

What I have realised this last week as I have been working with my business mentor on my next evolution is that I have continued to keep my head down, to be quiet and not raise my voice. I have avoided some social media because it didn’t feel safe, a feeling I have never been able to understand until now. I have kept my beautiful new relationship totally hidden, again out of an unnamed fear.

I don’t fear these women, I’ve happily assumed they’re off living their best lives, probably oblivious.

I’m ok with that actually.

This is about the healing that is necessary for me to trust myself again so I can move forward in alignment, not just for my business but in my life. You might be able to relate.

Healing takes time. It’s taken time for this kernel of shame to surface. Shame that says I was to blame, that our mutual friends silence also meant that others believed I was to blame. That I deserved it. None of this is the whole truth.

I took myself through a gentle and powerful process of self forgiveness that has helped enormously to shift my energy. The response of life flowing again these last few days has been wonderful confirmation.

Brené Brown says two things that I have held close this last week.

Firstly that shame cannot exist in the light of compassion and

Secondly once we own our story we can change the ending.

I’m ready to let this shame go because it is getting in the way of me trusting myself and backing myself and knowing I am worthy of the beautiful things I am creating. That I am worthy of support from my sisters (and brothers) unconditionally. You are too.

So you see discernment isn’t just about having the stats and metrics and mentally preparing for the path ahead. You need to be able to let go of the past to fully make yourself available for your present to shine.

Maybe what you’re letting go of isn’t quite so personal, maybe like my example up there your still berating yourself about a choice you made.

We are so often our hardest critics and could all do with a little more self compassion in our lives.

I have taken this process I used and created an audio for you if you’d like some help moving forward.

It is short just ten minutes with a couple of journal prompts at the end. You can find it here.

Let me know how you go.

With love Keri

How to know when it’s time to let go of your work.

Rockupuncture, Acupuncture, Sydney Essential Health, Keri Krieger,

This is Keri from 2008, she had just created Rockupuncture and it was about to create a whole new life for her, but first it was going to burn everything to the ground. Dramatic but true.

 

Around the middle of last year I acknowledged a feeling that I had been having for quite a while;

That my Sydney Rockupuncture roadshow’s were on the way out. I don’t have to wait for something to be flunking, to be unenjoyable or to be a grind to know that it’s time to go.

It’s ok to part on friendly terms.

AND as you might know by now, I’m a pretty intuitive woman and I just had the FEELS.

It was time.

So I did what any self respecting sensible intelligent person would do, and ignored all of this completely!

This is because I have such a great amount of emotion and gratitude attached to Sydney and my time with my clients over the last 9 years.

NINE. YEARS!

I first flew down to treat at Sydney Essential Health at the end of 2009. A guest from Lifestyle Health Retreat, Gwinganna who was an acupuncturist at SEH said before she left the retreat, “you should come to Sydney” and then another guest asked me when I was coming down so she could book in and then all of a sudden I was in Sydney working!

It was that fast and that simple.

I learnt on the run, created a mailing list, trademarked my modality name, and I was off!

I can not truly tell you, just how grateful I am to all my clients for letting me into their lives and trusting me with their health and hearts. What I might not ever have let on in my desire to be professional is just how big a cross roads all this was for me.

I was newly divorced, and newly creating my own business. It was epic to say the least.

I was literally reinventing myself and Sydney played a very big part in that.

The other people that I need to thank (while this is turning into an oscars speech!) is Carol and Neville, my Sydney ‘parents’ that once upon a time were ‘just clients’ .

I don’t have the space here to go into just how much their generosity and love has transformed my world and made my practice in Sydney possible.

I turned up on their doorstep, declared myself their long lost eldest daughter and spent 6 weekends a year in their spare room!

It blows my mind that this modality landed in my heart and hands and it went on to pay the rent, the pet insurance, took me to New York, Chiva Som in Thailand and introduced me to almost all the magical people that are in my life today.

I know some of you reading this are going through your own reinvention and it can feel terrifying to wonder just how it’s all going to work out. It will I promise.

Maybe not in the way you think it will, but it will.

So I’ll get to the crunch shall I? The feeling that I was avoiding continued to get bigger, and I couldn’t avoid it any longer. So I employed a technique that I hope you might be able to use in your life too;

I wrote to ‘Rockupuncture’ as if she was an entity (which she kind of is)

Now if this sounds a little weird hang in there. It’s a really helpful psychological tool to let a different element of yourself or a usually inanimate situation express their purpose to you.

And here is some of what she said….. “ It’s been an honour to serve you and care for and provide for you. I need a break now and so do you. Let your starlight guide you. Let your wild heart out of her tethers now it’s safe. I’m no longer the right container for what you’re offering. It’s natural to cling to what we know and while you are truly out in deep waters now, look down and you might see you’ve grown fins since you last looked.” I can’t deny any of that. It feels so true, (if a little cryptic!)

Nature abhors a vacuum and while I would dearly love to know all the answers ahead of time I have to trust that whatever is coming next needs the space I am creating, whilst sending Rockupuncture off with immense gratitude.

I didn’t realise just how emotional I would feel making this announcement. It’s a creative chapter of my life that’s coming to an end, but I am already wondering what I will create that will take me back to Sydney more often.. or perhaps to Melbourne to those neglected folk who have still been asking me when I’m coming back.

Stay tuned.

 

And know that if you have a situation in your life that is in transition and you’re wondering what it might say if it could speak that this tool will work for you too.

Let me know how it goes

 

 

x

 

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Boundaried – 21 days of Practical Magic + Personal Devotion

boundaried, e-course, keri krieger, women's health coach

She stared back at me from my past and I remember the exact day a few years ago now that I got it.

A really deep and embodied understanding that Self Care wasn’t just about doing all the lovely more superficial things that I had been doing. It was those things too for sure.

But there was more.

It was great that I took care of my health, and that I ate green food, and walked on the beach and did yoga and occasionally went and had a pedicure. But on this day as I sat there writing I realised that what I hadn’t been doing was choosing myself. That I had been hoping subconsciously that somehow, magically someone ELSE was going to come along with a magic wand and give me the power to do the things in my life that I was hoping to do, be and experience.

I wasn’t living from the inside out.

But handing it all over to someone, anyone (everyone) out there. And it was making lots of things really difficult. How on Earth was I hoping to have success in my work when I was hoping that someone outside of myself needed to like it first? How was I going to find myself in a healthy romantic relationship if I didn’t have my own back first?

I had been prioritising the needs of those I loved to the point that my self care up had been very superficial almost tokenistic.

I recall sitting there that afternoon in my very sunny apartment, looking around like it was all brand new and knowing that from that moment on I would choose me first.

I would back myself wholeheartedly and that the things I wanted to experience more in my life would be prioritised.

I mean it sounds so obvious.

If I wanted something I was working on to be a success I would define that success and then wholehearted go after it. If I was tired and needed time to myself to support my health I would take it.

This embodied decision completely renegotiated my whole life. And put me at the centre of it.

That moment in time completely transformed every relationship I had. (not all of them survived) And it opened up a world of possibilities.

But even as I write this, I can hear it, that voice, you might have heard it go through your head just now too? Because that’s what articles like this trigger off in people like us.

Recovering people pleasers.

Did you hear it? The “But what about them?” But what about what they will think or do if I put myself first.

That’s the definition of selfish isn’t it?

No it’s not.

It’s the definition of Boundaried.

Of knowing what you need, of what you value, of what is of primary importance for you right now.

Of the help you might need to ask for or organise. It will look different for each and every one of us. But the results will be the same. Deep and abiding self respect Energy, Grace and resilience to navigate your life.

This is NOT a boundary that is a barrier keeping everyone out. This isn’t that same wall that keeps a broken heart locked up or a wounded soul in safe isolation.

This is about keeping what you need IN and about elegant choices of where your energy goes based in your values, needs and daily circumstances. It’s about your wild heart knowing it has free reign because she knows her edges are respected. It’s about all this and so much more.

 

The woman I was and the woman I am now are pretty dang excited t share with you that Boundaried is open for  pre-sale.

Two weeks of 20% off then that discount will continue for subscribers till we kick off on the 13th of June.

I would love to hear from you. Subscribe, check out Boundaried HERE and message me with any questions you have.

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